I didn’t expect to get much out of the life coaching sessions with Terry as I tend to look into “self-help” strategies myself. So I thought that there wasn’t really anything new I could learn or gain from the session that I hadn’t already heard. I had a challenging upbringing, and have overcome a lot of things in life by myself, so I didn’t think there was anything more I could do or needed in my life. The main thing I discovered and have taken away from Terry’s sessions is that there isn’t a limit on happiness, or what is realistic to expect from your life. That life isn’t suffering or making do. And that it is possible to feel better than you’re already feeling, and it’s alright to feel better than that – I have to say again, because I really needed to know this – that there isn’t a limit on happiness.
I suffer with Trigeminal Neuralgia, and anyone who has experienced neuropathic pain knows how crippling and debilitating it is. I’ve had my medication changed twice, and have had to leave work or call in sick due to the pain of the condition and the side effects from the medication. Terry’s tense and relax relaxation and one-word focus has been able to help me wean my medication down. It doesn’t eliminate the pain, but I don’t have to take extra tablets in the day to top up. I have even skipped my medication for a couple of days, and was able to control the stabs of pain with the relaxation techniques. While I am in work, I can do the 1 minute relaxation, adding tense and relax to it, and I am able to keep the pain at bay. That is definitely something I didn’t expect from the sessions – so invaluable for my health and wellbeing, and I’m so grateful to Terry for that.
As an extra bonus, Terry was able to talk to me about my relationships, which have been challenging due to traumas in my past. His insight and tools, such as the partner from hell and heaven, really has changed my life – and this is only a few weeks after the session. I know now that it is possible to get the relationship you desire, and that it isn’t foolish or unrealistic not to go after it.
And last, but certainly not least, my arachnophobia. Now this, I really didn’t expect Terry would be able to do anything about. For as long as I remember spiders have frightened me. Ever since I was about 6 years old I remember being utterly terrified, frozen. I would stay up all night. I’ve left the house when a spider has appeared in my bathroom. My worse attack was when a spider, a very large one crawled across the living room floor – and I stayed up for 24hrs straight afraid it would come in my room (this was at the age of 27) after locking myself inside my room and putting towels under the door. Terry spent 20 minutes with me on the arachnophobia, and 20 minutes I was sure was a waste of his and my time. Yet, three weeks in, again, my fear of spiders isn’t eliminated, but it sure isn’t what it was. I use to recoil from video or photographs of spiders, and though I don’t like them, I can watch them. That’s absolutely huge for me, and that little aspect of my life being less terrifying has given me such a confidence boost, and has made me feel more optimistic about life.
Just four sessions with Terry has had a profound impact on my life. If you are sceptical of these things, go in with an open mind, and give it a shot. I tend to be open minded, but there is no way I thought Trigeminal Neuralgia or arachnophobia could get better from a life coaching session. Those are two serious medical conditions, one physical, and one mental, and the fact that both improved in four sessions with Terry was such a pleasant unexpected surprise. It’s not about finding fault in how you’re already living your life, but helping you live your life in a much more complete and full way.
Again, thank you Terry. You will have no idea how much you’ve helped me.